What is your attachment style - secure or insecure?

According to Dr Helgo Schomer, parents would like to provide secure attachments to their children most of the time.

Secure attachment is a safe space in which people can operate in and it is also basis for future relationships, he says.

He says that the worst thing that could happen to a youngster is to be growing up where the parents or caregiver constantly change their game, meaning there is no consistency.

If you were growing up in an insecure attachment style you will actually be an insecure partner in future.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation on The Redi Tlhabi Show:

Attachment becomes a problem when you haven’t transcended into adulthood and grant the partner in front of you the same status.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

If your mother has more say than your partner then you are in trouble.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

The more secure your upbringing was, the more you going stand for your own decisions.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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