Untold stories of South African men and adoption

Journalist Deborah Minors has focused on the experience of separation for men in adoption-related issues.

Minors' research challenged the belief that adoption is a women's issue, which usually neglects the experiences of men. She says men who have been adopted, or who adopt children do not speak out as much as women.

702's Azania Mosaka spoke to her about the issue... Listen to the interview below:

I was about 16 and I remember my father saying 'I'm going to find that bitch Deborah' - he was referring to his birth mother.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

There was a lot of anger there, a lot of unresolved issues, a lot of feelings or rejection and abandonment.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

They call it the seven core issues in adoption, and all members of the adoption triad will experience it at some point in their lives.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

Adoption begins with loss, rejection, guilt, grief, identity, intimacy and mastery. Essentially, adoption begins with loss from a psychological perspective.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

Minors' research focus was inspired by her father's late discovery of his adoption and the events that followed as a result.

Although adoption is certainly the best option, it is a constructed family where the dynamics differ from a nuclear family quite significantly, and there are issues that will arise because of the nature of those dynamics.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

The voices of men in South Africa is virtually unheard of. Men who are adopted, men who had given children up for adoption, men who had adopted children.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

They say that they are not angry but there is definitely anger. Adoption is always presented as a happily-ever-after but there are specific dynamics and issues that come up.

Deborah Minors, adoption journalist

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