How to stop living your dreams through your children

According to Parental Expert Nikki Bush, parents can easily fall into a trap of vicariously living through their children unconsciously.

Bush says parents need to provide enough experiences, as well as a conducive environment for children to be able to experiment, in order to realise their strengths and weaknesses.

She says children who grow up living their parents expectations, even if they excel, could grow up with a large degree of resentment and anger which may emerge later in adulthood.

Listen to the full conversation below:

We all have expectations and we all have our own frame of reference, what worked for you, what your interests were and skills …

Nikki Bush - Parenting expert

But we need to remember that every child is a unique human being and we need to honour that and celebrate it and not push all that uniqueness under the rug because of our own expectations

Nikki Bush - Parenting expert

If you are a big influence in that child’s life it is really important that we allow the child to emerge as they grow and develop.

Nikki Bush - Parenting expert
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