How to survive and deal with the passing of a life partner

Dr Helgo Schomer talks to Eusebius Mckaiser about dealing with the death of a loving partner, someone who’s been at the centre of your life.

According to Dr Schomer, when the bad news arrive most people go through the various recognised stages of grief, first a state of denial and later becoming angry, then bargaining, depression and finally some level of acceptance.

When an event like this happens we are in shock, we will mostly deny it, isolate ourselves and be angry with the world, and it is quite normal.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation below:

If we take time to grieve and understand the mourning process, the sense of loss, the amazing vacuum that loss creates, we might get to the final stage of acceptance

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Dr Schomer says where there's been sexual intimacy, the grieving process takes much longer and the way to go about it is to allow yourself to mourn for your loved one.

Grief is not an event; it is a process and all our old roles need to be redefined. We need to find the floor underneath our feet again.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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