How to survive and deal with the passing of a life partner

Dr Helgo Schomer talks to Eusebius Mckaiser about dealing with the death of a loving partner, someone who’s been at the centre of your life.

According to Dr Schomer, when the bad news arrive most people go through the various recognised stages of grief, first a state of denial and later becoming angry, then bargaining, depression and finally some level of acceptance.

When an event like this happens we are in shock, we will mostly deny it, isolate ourselves and be angry with the world, and it is quite normal.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation below:

If we take time to grieve and understand the mourning process, the sense of loss, the amazing vacuum that loss creates, we might get to the final stage of acceptance

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Dr Schomer says where there's been sexual intimacy, the grieving process takes much longer and the way to go about it is to allow yourself to mourn for your loved one.

Grief is not an event; it is a process and all our old roles need to be redefined. We need to find the floor underneath our feet again.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Recommended

by NEWSROOM AI
Read More
Preview into 'Khwezi...Say my name' - the play

Preview into 'Khwezi...Say my name' - the play

Poet and playwright Napo Masheane provides insight into her play based on Redi Thlabi's book.

Ever wondered why you go for that slice of cake...even when you're full?

Ever wondered why you go for that slice of cake...even when you're full?

Chris Smith, better known as The Naked Scientist, answers this and other questions from listeners.

Ever wanted to know who funds political parties? Now you can

Ever wanted to know who funds political parties? Now you can

The Concourt rules that political parties should disclose their private funders and donors.

Koeksisters and Koesisters, what's the difference?

Koeksisters and Koesisters, what's the difference?

Food anthropologist, chef and author, Anna Trapido, explains the difference between two South African specialities.

You aren't legally entitled to an annual increase (and why your contract is key)

You aren't legally entitled to an annual increase (and why your contract is key)

Employment law litigator Joe Mothibi explains that an annual increase is not a given unless stated otherwise in the job contract.

Will making teaching an essential service prevent teachers from striking?

Will making teaching an essential service prevent teachers from striking?

Pundits discuss whether teaching should be made an essential service.

Popular articles
[LISTEN] Father shares how he shot the man who raped his daughter

[LISTEN] Father shares how he shot the man who raped his daughter

Johannesburg father, Chris says he had just come back from work when he walked in on an employee raping his 17 year old daughter.

Human trafficking: The life of drugs and prostitution - Grizelda Grootboom

Human trafficking: The life of drugs and prostitution - Grizelda Grootboom

The author of Exit, Grizelda Grootboom, explains how she was trafficked, drugged and sold for sex on the streets of Joburg.

Why the PAC wants South Africa renamed Azania

Why the PAC wants South Africa renamed Azania

Pan Africanist Congress's Narius Moloto explains why it supports the name Azania, a word which he says has Arabic origins.

Is the lovable Winnie The Pooh a boy or girl?

Is the lovable Winnie The Pooh a boy or girl?

A trending Twitter debate has left social media users arguing over whether Winnie the Pooh is a girl or boy.

UPDATE: Chilling WhatsApp from Marli van Breda's ex-boyfriend read out in court

UPDATE: Chilling WhatsApp from Marli van Breda's ex-boyfriend read out in court

Marli van Breda's ex took the stand in the trial of triple murder accused Henri van Breda.

3 easy questions could bag you R2000!

3 easy questions could bag you R2000!

WIN R2000! But only if you can prove you're a whiz of the MTN Biz Quiz by answering the following three questions...

Blesserfinder: Matching you with a sugar daddy near you

Blesserfinder: Matching you with a sugar daddy near you

Is social trend Blesserfinder, where girls are allegedly matching up with rich 'benefactors' in exchange for sex, a real thing?