Dr Schomer - Perfectionism: Blessing or an enemy of progress?

Most people do not like failing, but the reality is we do come up against our shortfalls at times in our daily lives.

Dr Schomer speaks to CapeTalk/702’s Redi thlabi about perfectionism, positive and negative impacts of striving to be perfect all the time.

A perfectionist is a person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.

Failure is built in, it is the way we learn and the way we will go forward

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation below:

Perfectionists live with this unbelievable burden of unrealistic pressures

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Dr Schomer says even people who we regard as heroes and icons (Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Ghandi) have failed at some point in their lives. “We all fail”, he says.

There’s a wonderful perfectionism if you are a rocket scientist …but on our daily lives we need to let go of the “I should be perfect” mentality.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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