How to accept defeat gracefully and with dignity

Dr Helgo Schomer looks at the psychology behind being defeated. He talks about the difference between getting defeated and feeling defeated.

Schomer says the biggest problem is with the attitude of thinking we have to win all the time - where if you beat the competition, you are worth it and if you lose you are worthless.

It's important that people enjoy what they are doing and reach a point where they can compete without feeling the need to put the competitor down.

We cant shine all the time

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

We need far more cooperative behaviour amongst each than competitive behaviour

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Sometimes walking slowly is exactly what we need, and not walking faster

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

If you are constantly comparing yourself and the only thing that counts is winning, you have a problem

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

As scientists... we are worried that obsessive competitiveness and competitions will drive this species into extinction

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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