I love my child but... The frustrations and challenges of single mothers

A 27-year-old woman's anonymous letter sharing her frustrations of raising a child as a single parent has been met with an outpouring of support from other single mothers.

In the letter, the woman talks about her feelings of regret and always left wondering how different her life could have turned out had she decided otherwise.

702's Phemelo Ngcobo (standing in for Azania Mosaka) spoke to clinical psychologist, Dr Nthabiseng Mabena, regarding the issue.

Listen to the conversation below:

Perhaps you're feeling that your life is not turning out the way you wanted it to be. Whatever feelings you may have, you need to deal with them to a point of acceptance.

Dr Nthabiseng Mabena, clinical psychologist

To have the feeling is understandable. After everything she has had to go through, after everything she has had to put up with, it's understandable.

Dr Nthabiseng Mabena, clinical psychologist

The topic resonated with a caller, Sarah, who expressed her frustration at raising her children (who are 39 and 40 years old) under difficult circumstances with a list of challenges she has to manage.

I uttered those words to my adult son. I'm 68 right now and I'm still working due to the fact that I have a hopeless son at home.

Sarah, caller in Pretoria

Another caller, Jenny, said she looked for support from family as a single mother. She assured mothers in the same situation that women 'have been blessed with an absolute treasure,' going further to say that 'you will look back in a few years time and be very proud'.

I had my daughter when I was 23. My message is don't give up, hang in there and don't be shy to lean on family and friends when they offer help.

Jenny, caller in Joburg

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