How to overcome the fear of death and die with dignity

Regular psychologist, Dr Helgo Schomer, says that from the moment we are born we know we will die. The only problem is that we don't want to face the end, says Dr Schomer.

Most people live with the fear of unknown, because no one has ever come back from death to tell the tale of what it is like to die.

He says hospices try very hard to minimize the agony of death by allowing people to die with dignity, while surrounded by family, as opposed to dying alone in hospital and in pain.

The majority of people are scared of dying in pain and the suffering that comes with it, says Dr Schomer

Very few achieve a lighthearted attitude and some achieve a realistically grounding attitude that is usually based on cultural values, so particular religions have a particular attitude.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Many religions believe in a transcendental 'higher place' called heaven. These religions maintain that if you live according to the prescribed principles and the laws of that religion, when you die you'll go straight to heaven and people look forward to that.

But Dr Schomer says we don't know that this is fact.

When people die they lose control of things they've been in control of for most of their life and that terrifies everyone, he says.

You give yourself up to a new state of being that is the least explained and the least mapped

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

According to Dr Schomer, dying with dignity means being able to make conscious decisions that are based on reason, and being able to be in control yourself so that you don't burden others.

Listen to the full conversation below:

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