How to overcome the fear of death and die with dignity

Regular psychologist, Dr Helgo Schomer, says that from the moment we are born we know we will die. The only problem is that we don't want to face the end, says Dr Schomer.

Most people live with the fear of unknown, because no one has ever come back from death to tell the tale of what it is like to die.

He says hospices try very hard to minimize the agony of death by allowing people to die with dignity, while surrounded by family, as opposed to dying alone in hospital and in pain.

The majority of people are scared of dying in pain and the suffering that comes with it, says Dr Schomer

Very few achieve a lighthearted attitude and some achieve a realistically grounding attitude that is usually based on cultural values, so particular religions have a particular attitude.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Many religions believe in a transcendental 'higher place' called heaven. These religions maintain that if you live according to the prescribed principles and the laws of that religion, when you die you'll go straight to heaven and people look forward to that.

But Dr Schomer says we don't know that this is fact.

When people die they lose control of things they've been in control of for most of their life and that terrifies everyone, he says.

You give yourself up to a new state of being that is the least explained and the least mapped

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

According to Dr Schomer, dying with dignity means being able to make conscious decisions that are based on reason, and being able to be in control yourself so that you don't burden others.

Listen to the full conversation below:


Recommended

by NEWSROOM AI
Read More
We can't treat refugees the same way we were treated under apartheid - LHR

We can't treat refugees the same way we were treated under apartheid - LHR

In an open letter to President Cyril Ramaphosa, Lawyers for Human Rights condemn the abusive reception of refugees in SA.

Eskom locked in talks with unions over wage increase

Eskom locked in talks with unions over wage increase

It is still not clear whether a resolution has been reached to end the week-long industrial action at Eskom over wages.

World Refugee Day in Ethiopia - Africa's second largest refugee hosting country

World Refugee Day in Ethiopia - Africa's second largest refugee hosting country

Follow Pan-Africanist journalist, Lee Kasumba's journey, as she explores Ethiopia's business dynamics on World Refugee Day.

Fancy doing business abroad? Ever considered Mauritius?

Fancy doing business abroad? Ever considered Mauritius?

The Mauritian Economic Development Board is looking to partner with SA businesses to build strong ties and grow the economy.

'Stop pointing fingers, both Eskom and unions are to blame for load shedding'

'Stop pointing fingers, both Eskom and unions are to blame for load shedding'

Spokesperson Khulu Phasiwe says unions and Eskom and both to blame for the unexpected load shedding over the weekend.

Anoj Singh should be charged criminally for corruption - FM Deputy Editor

Anoj Singh should be charged criminally for corruption - FM Deputy Editor

Deputy Editor at Financial Mail Sikonathi Mantshantsha says SAICA is pretending to be working by announcing charges against Anoj Singh

Popular articles
Why the PAC wants South Africa renamed Azania

Why the PAC wants South Africa renamed Azania

Pan Africanist Congress's Narius Moloto explains why it supports the name Azania, a word which he says has Arabic origins.

Is the lovable Winnie The Pooh a boy or girl?

Is the lovable Winnie The Pooh a boy or girl?

A trending Twitter debate has left social media users arguing over whether Winnie the Pooh is a girl or boy.

UPDATE: Chilling WhatsApp from Marli van Breda's ex-boyfriend read out in court

UPDATE: Chilling WhatsApp from Marli van Breda's ex-boyfriend read out in court

Marli van Breda's ex took the stand in the trial of triple murder accused Henri van Breda.

Douw Steyn is one of Africa’s richest (yet you may not have heard of him)

Douw Steyn is one of Africa’s richest (yet you may not have heard of him)

Bruce Whitfield interviews Forbes Africa's Chris Bishop to find out more about this lesser known South African billionaire.

3 easy questions could bag you R2000!

3 easy questions could bag you R2000!

WIN R2000! But only if you can prove you're a whiz of the MTN Biz Quiz by answering the following three questions...

Blesserfinder: Matching you with a sugar daddy near you

Blesserfinder: Matching you with a sugar daddy near you

Is social trend Blesserfinder, where girls are allegedly matching up with rich 'benefactors' in exchange for sex, a real thing?