People in the LGBTIQ community often struggle with 'coming out' of their sexual orientation to their families and loved ones, which comes with feelings of anxiety.
702/Cape Talk's stand-in for The Redi Tlhabi Show invited Siya Mnyanda and Thandiwe Ntshinga to share their experiences with listeners.
Mnyanda said his mother was the second person she came out to when he was a student at the University of Cape Town. To his surprise, his the chaplain at his school had informed his mother about his sexual orientation when he was 14-years-old. Ntshinga revealed her sexual orientation to her father on Friday morning, whose response was supportive.
Both guests agreed that the process requires unlearning hetero-normative stereotypes, especially when addressing heterosexual people who's understanding of sexuality is based on binaries.
Listen to the conversation below:
A lot of the times, our frame of reference is ourselves right? So because your sexuality is limited to a specific type, you'd think everyone else is like that.— Siya Mnyanda, homosexual man
He [her father] didn't ask too many questions. He was more concerned with the question of why I didn't him earlier more than anything.— Thandiwe Ntshinga, pansexual woman