As a parent how many times have you uttered the following words? "I wish you could behave like your brother!" Or, "She is better than you; she got an A in mathematics". Being sensitive to what is uttered to children could save them from being depressed and feeling useless in future. How do you raise children with different talents or levels of intelligence without one feeling dumber than the other?
According to Dr Schomer, parents need to see their children as individuals with different characters and not raise or treat them in the same way.
Treat them as individuals and deal with what is in front of them.
Here are Dr Schomer’s tips for raising children:
- Encourage that special skill a child has
- Praise effort – applaud when a child does it right but never diminish when it goes wrong
- Celebrate the difference
- Parents should read and read with their children. Reading opens up the child’s mind
- Play, play and play with your child – Develop a routine
- Don’t stop hugging and kissing your children
Listen to conversation between Dr Schomer and Redi on The Redi Tlhabi show: