Today's Big Stories

What to do when you have a crush (but it's not your bae)

It is very possible to have feelings and physical attraction for other people while in a relationship, says clinical sexologist Dr. Eve.

What is important is how people manage crushes towards individuals who aren't their partners.

Dr Eve says people need to carefully consider whether they want to discuss their feelings towards 'crushes' with their partners.

Relationships are not confessionals. If we were to share every single thought that comes into our head, relationships wouldn't last longer than one day.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

She advises that those with crushes need to conduct a 'risk-benefit' analysis of some kind to determine whether spilling the beans is worth it.

Having a crush can be healthy, as long as it aligns with the values established in your relationship.

Crushes become a cause for concern once people fail to exercise impulse control, feel the urge to cheat or think of their crushes when being intimate with their lovers.

She warns that a crush should not have a negative impact on a relationship and should not intrusive in one's life. This is the point at which distance must be established.

Dr Eve explains that people often grapple with their 'crush' or attraction because of the traditional notions of monogamy and societal expectations of relationships.

Meanwhile, a study has shown that having 'crushes' can bring increased pleasure to relationships. It found that most crushes are developed towards co-workers, ex-lovers and close friends.

Listen to the the juicy conversation here:

Read More
Veterans and ANC not on same page about terms of consultative conference

Veterans and ANC not on same page about terms of consultative conference

ANC vets want civil society groups present at the consultative conference, which they want held separately from another meeting.

Top SABC journos applauded for brave testimony

Top SABC journos applauded for brave testimony

EWN's Gaye Davis summarises the evidence of the SABC journalists who appeared before the ad hoc committee in Parliament.

If you're gona be a hero (and smash a car window), make sure you can prove harm

If you're gona be a hero (and smash a car window), make sure you can prove harm

A criminal lawyer explains what leg citizens can stand on if they witness a child or pet locked in a vehicle in risky conditions.

SABC 'in contempt of court' if Motsoeneng reports for duty, says DA

SABC 'in contempt of court' if Motsoeneng reports for duty, says DA

The DA's James Selfe says it is not clear whether SABC's Hlaudi Motsoeneng will be either fired or suspended pending an inquiry.

How to have an intimate relationship (without sex)

How to have an intimate relationship (without sex)

Intimacy is more about sharing than anything else and there are various ways to become intimate besides sex, explains Dr Eve.

What does sex mean in a relationship?

What does sex mean in a relationship?

It is estimated that 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year. Dr Eve talks about sexless relationships.

Popular articles
Police shoot at crowd of immigrants with rubber bullets (arrests 136 people)

Police shoot at crowd of immigrants with rubber bullets (arrests 136 people)

"As we speak there’s another standoff in Sunnyside, " says EWN's Barry Bateman.

10 sexting tips on how to keep things spicy (and safe)

10 sexting tips on how to keep things spicy (and safe)

Interested in sexting but worried about the risks? Dr Eve has created a guideline to help you 'sext' in a fun and responsible way.

Vaal Dam about to reach 100% capacity

Vaal Dam about to reach 100% capacity

A few months ago the dam was only 27% full.

Letters show Moyane refuses to account to Gordhan, turns to Zuma to intervene

Letters show Moyane refuses to account to Gordhan, turns to Zuma to intervene

M&G reports that Sars Commissioner Tom Moyane declared an intergovernmental dispute against Finance Minister Pravin Gordhan.

Violence breaks out in Atteridgeville amid #XenoMarch

Violence breaks out in Atteridgeville amid #XenoMarch

Tensions are high in Atteridgeville as a group calling itself Mamelodi Concerned Residents prepares to march against immigrants.

Where is that corrupt bastard? - EFF MP to Brian Molefe

Where is that corrupt bastard? - EFF MP to Brian Molefe

Former Eskom CEO Brian Molefe was sworn in as a Member of Parliament replacing Abram Mudau this week.

New transfer cost threshold an unwise move - property expert

New transfer cost threshold an unwise move - property expert

What does the Finance Minister's announcement on transfer duty threshold really mean for home buyers?

'Engrish' never loved us: 30 words listeners struggle to pronounce

'Engrish' never loved us: 30 words listeners struggle to pronounce

Worcestershire or "Wooster" sauce? The Queen's language can be over-rated and hard to get right! Listeners chuckle at themselves.

Budget 2017 and tax: The good (there is some), the bad and the ugly

Budget 2017 and tax: The good (there is some), the bad and the ugly

The Money Show’s Bruce Whitfield interviews TaxTim cofounder Marc Sevitz.