How to date your friend's ex without ruining your friendship

People should open themselves up to express and experience love, instead closing up and facing the prospect of unhappiness.

This is according to Expressive Arts Therapist Dr Makgati Mokoena, who spoke to #NightTalk's Gugs Mhlungu and Sizwe Dhlomo about how a person could date a friend's ex without ruining their friendship.

As human beings we make so many rules for each other and for ourselves, that when it comes to love, I believe that we should be using love to set ourselves free rather than to lock ourselves up

Dr Makgati Mokoena, Expressive Arts Therapist

Dr Mokoena says that social rules which people construct limit the possibility of an individual to experience love to the fullest.

Its finished if its finished, or else you will still be with your ex

Dr Makgati Mokoena, Expressive Arts Therapist

When faced with the prospect of dating a friend's ex, Dr Mokoena is of the view that an open-minded approach between friends can prevent any tensions from arising.

As somebody who has been dumped or someone who has dumped someone, I give my ex permission to date whoever they want. That makes sense to me because I think that's the greatest expression of love

Dr Makgati Mokoena, Expressive Arts Therapist

Listen to the conversation below:

As the discussion continued, #NightTalk listeners had diverse views on how one can date a friend's ex without ruining the friendship:

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