Are you friends with your exes?
Whether the relationship ended amicably and by mutual agreement or was an ugly, catastrophic break-up, deciding on how to proceed can be challenging.
Eusebius Mckaiser says he cannot completely remove former lovers from his life and asked listeners if they could be amicable with their exes.
Below are some of the mixed responses:
I have enough friends, final is final. No need to blur the lines #exesRexes— Lauren Kansley (@LaurenKansley) January 31, 2017
I don't think you should be friends with your ex because it leaves too many loose ends... You can't eat and then vomit, then eat it up again.— Elliot, caller
My husband and I are friends with our exes, not because of unfinished business... There's no need to right off people. I want to thank his exes for him, I'm very grateful for them."— Karien, caller
@Eusebius no I am not friends with my X's blocked delete and gone. I will say hi, that's about it.— Nqanqa (@NqanqaM) January 31, 2017
I'm not one for keeping in touch with exes... My feeling is that if it's broken it's broken. Forwards ever, backwards never.— Vanessa, caller
An ex, is an ex, is an ex. No good comes from keeping in contact, let alone being friends. Once I accept that it's over, you're dead to me.— via SMS line
I've been divorced for over 30 years and my ex-husband still refuses to talk to me.— Susan, caller
I still miss my ex. @Eusebius— Xolani Sibiya (@sithuledu) January 31, 2017
I've found that even though there is an amicable parting, as time goes on there is less of a need to make contact with your ex.— Max, caller
Take a listen to callers share their varying views:
It depends on the break up, whether it was amicable or not.. There's one ex I've remained in contact with— Sylvia McLite (@mclitesylvia) January 31, 2017
Hayi ngeke sbali. Only contact for and about our children qha. No chomma besigheid hier. We are done.— Nthabiseng (@mahlobogoaner) January 31, 2017