How family moulds your personal identity and values while growing up

Our experiences with family during the early years shape the people we later become.

Clinical psychologist Khosi Jiyane explains that children are socialised at a young age by their family members.

Jiyane says the formative years of life serve as the foundation on which individuals learn and develop.

We are written into. Our psyche is written into by the experiences we have in our formative years.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

Because of the vulnerability that exists within our primary and formative years, the experiences leave indelible marks in our psyche.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

According to Jiyane, our psychological and social DNA is deeply rooted in the behaviours we witness and adopt growing up.

She explains that our values begin to conflict with family when we get older as we discover other ways of existing.

As we grow, we discover more and more of ourselves.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

It's about becoming aware of who you are and what your needs are. It's about finding the vocabulary to be able to negotiate those boundaries between yourself and your family.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

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This article first appeared on CapeTalk : How family moulds your personal identity and values while growing up


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