How family meal time moulds our feelings and identity

Food is an integral part of human survival and often the center of many family events and festivities.

Clinical psychologist Khosi Jiyane says food plays a key role in the upbringing of individuals and shaping of relationships.

Food is a central part of a very interesting tapestry of relationships... It affects our sense of self and our relationship with the other and how we enter the social space.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

There's an emptiness that we're trying to fill. Sometimes food can become a surrogate parent, we fill the absence of love with food.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

Jiyane and presenter Eusebius McKaiser reflected on the role and currency of food in their childhood.

My grandmother used to say if she wanted to get news out of me, all she needed to do was make me toast.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

Once I started leaving home it was hard to eat in silence because I associated food with a massive family gatherings and fellowship.

Eusebius McKaiser, presenter

Listeners also shared their nostalgic memories about mealtime and family when growing up.

My mom had this thing of hiding food whenever we had parties or get-together's... It was a thing in our home that when people left everyone took food home - but not in the real Tupperware!

Venita, caller

Growing up, we only had rice on the weekends... Whenever I cook it, iIt's not just rice, it's what comes with it. It became a family event and it means a lot to me.

Ntaba, caller

My favourite memory of food as a child is whenever people came to your house, no matter who they were or where they were coming from, the guest had a plate of food before they left.

Antoinette, caller

How does food feature in your family life? Leave your comments below.

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