How to help (not hinder) teens in their transition from adolescence

Peer pressure and the pursuit of belonging can often drive adolescents in their journey to self-discovery.

Counselling psychologist Nikole Seele says most teenagers struggle with "fitting in" during their transition from adolescence to adulthood.

Teens have to strike the balance between friendship groups and parental influence, Seele explains.

Adolescence is described as the period following the onset of puberty during which a young person develops from a child into an adult.

Adolescence is defined chronologically as between 11 and 13 to 17 and 21 – however, Seele says this can be better understood as developmental changes.

Read: How to stop sibling rivalry from poisoning your kids

Seele says she chooses to define adolescence as stage when young people experience physical, cognitive, personality and social changes.

She adds that the transition is happening much earlier than ever before.

Adolescence is happening a lot earlier than it used to.

Nikole Seele, counselling psychologist

Also read: How to bring the best out of your misguided kids

Seele says that parents need to set boundaries with their children during their transition and role model acceptable attitudes and behaviour.

She advises that parents must be both friends and disciplinarians in their relationship with their children.

Seele also emphasised the importance of open communication between families and adolescents in transition.

She explored the complexities of adolescence and the impact of changes on young people's self-esteem and identity development.

Take a listen to her insightful advice and callers share their personal stories:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : How to help (not hinder) teens in their transition from adolescence


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