Why being friends with an ex isn't always easy (or possible)

It takes both parties to build an amicable relationship after a break-up, says behavioural psychologist Dr Helgo Schomer.

Also read: Can you be friends with your ex or do you cut all ties? Here's some advice

Dr Schomer says that reflection and maturity are needed to work towards a healthy friendship with an ex.

But it's not always possible to be friends with an ex after a break-up, because of abuse or other toxic reasons.

In the case of divorced parents, Dr Schomer explains that exes can demonstrate friendship behaviour for their children to model, where possible.

Also read: Communication and co-parenting tips for divorced parents

He says that if friendship is not realistic, exes can form a civil, functional relationship for the sake of co-parenting.

It's normally okay to have a civil, functional, conversational relationship. It doesn't [always] have to buddy-buddy again.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

Take a listen to Dr Schomer offer his advice and callers sharing their personal stories:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : Why being friends with an ex isn't always easy (or possible)


Recommended

by NEWSROOM AI
Read More
Don't break-up with someone via text message - psychologist

Don't break-up with someone via text message - psychologist

Psychologist Cathy Angus discusses with Azania Mosaka mediums which are appropriate or inappropriate methods of communication.

Don't dismiss the impact money has on your romantic relationship

Don't dismiss the impact money has on your romantic relationship

Recent research has suggested that money has beaten annoying habits as the number one reason couples divorce

Communication and co-parenting tips for divorced parents

Communication and co-parenting tips for divorced parents

The marriage may be over, but you are parents forever, advises relationship coach Stephanie Dawson-Cosser.

How to repair a broken friendship

How to repair a broken friendship

A break-up between friends can cause major chest pains. Dr Schomer talks about the taxing juncture in life when a friendship ends.

Can you be friends with your ex or do you cut all ties? Here's some advice

Can you be friends with your ex or do you cut all ties? Here's some advice

Do you stay in touch with an ex-lover or do you shut the door once it is over? Callers share their mixed experiences and opinions.

Top break up songs to help mend a bruised heart (or make you cry)

Top break up songs to help mend a bruised heart (or make you cry)

Take a listen to callers sharing their go-to tracks when recovering from a break-up and trying to move on.

Morgan Deane blogs about divorce tips after split with Graeme Smith

Morgan Deane blogs about divorce tips after split with Graeme Smith

‘Girl’s guide to divorce’ is the brainchild of Morgan Deane who has started a blog after ending her marriage with Graeme Smith.

Why you can't magically block the feelings after a 'break-up'

Why you can't magically block the feelings after a 'break-up'

Clinical sexologist Dr. Eve says formerly intimate relationships don't have to end abruptly, but can morph into something else.

How to put children first when going through a divorce or separation

How to put children first when going through a divorce or separation

Nikki Bush looks at how parents can work together to reach a settlement that benefits the entire family when a marriage ends

Does dating for long divorce-proof a marriage?

Does dating for long divorce-proof a marriage?

CapeTalk/702 listeners share secrets to a happy marriage and stories of how they met and how long they dated before tying the knot

Popular articles
Gigaba implicated in Transnet impropriety

Gigaba implicated in Transnet impropriety

Gigaba has been fingered in a forensic investigation related to the procurement process for locomotives from China South Rail.

[LISTEN] Cervical cancer is the only cancer that is caused by sex - Dr Eve

[LISTEN] Cervical cancer is the only cancer that is caused by sex - Dr Eve

Dr Eve discusses cervical cancer and how it can be prevented.

[LISTEN] Is Gqom really music? Callers share their views

[LISTEN] Is Gqom really music? Callers share their views

Callers on the open line discuss class appropriation by musicians and music genres.

3 risks to your retirement savings (and how to mitigate each of them)

3 risks to your retirement savings (and how to mitigate each of them)

Only 5% of South African retirement fund members will retire comfortably. Bruce Whitfield interviews advisor Warren Ingram.

Gift of the Givers' Dr Imtiaz Sooliman – angel amongst men – talks about money

Gift of the Givers' Dr Imtiaz Sooliman – angel amongst men – talks about money

"I have no desire for clothes. I have no desire for holidays. I have no desire for outings. All I see is the suffering of people…"

Thandeka Gqubule prepared to fight EFF to the end

Thandeka Gqubule prepared to fight EFF to the end

SABC Journalist and part of the SABC 8 Thandeka Gqubule says she has not had any communication from the EFF.

Discovery Bank takes on Capitec Bank, TymeDigital (Patrice Motsepe), Bank Zero

Discovery Bank takes on Capitec Bank, TymeDigital (Patrice Motsepe), Bank Zero

South Africa has a brand-new bank! The Money Show’s Bruce Whitfield interviews Adrian Gore, Discovery Group CEO.

[WATCH] Iceland’s Christmas advert banned- for being too political

[WATCH] Iceland’s Christmas advert banned- for being too political

Khabazela shares tweets and Facebook posts that have gone viral.