An expert guide on 'hotwifing' and 'cuckolding' in the bedroom

'Hotwifing' and 'cuckolding' are sexual fetishes practices as a part of ethical nonmonogamy.

Both focus on a woman partner having sexual encounters outside of her primary partnership for the the enjoyment of both herself and her primary male partner.

Cuckolding relationships are often marked by the humiliation of the primary male partner, explains clinical sexologist Dr Eve.

Some definitions:

Hotwife: a woman who has sex with other men outside of her primary relationship.

Cuckold: a man who derives pleasure from having his female partner have erotic/sexual encounters with other men while also being humiliated or submissive.

Bull: a man who joins a woman for sexual encounters (not her primary partner).

Dr Eve explains that is is important to to remove the shame around sexual fetishes, in order for partner's to authentically explore their sexual desires.

Read: Do you hide your kinks and fantasies? Exploring sexuality authenticity disorder

A fetish is about having the highest form of sexual arousal.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

She says that many partners (men in particular) find it difficult to introduce the idea to sexual partners because it is seen as taboo.

In every single relationship, people are going to have diverse erotic orientations, needs and desire levels. People have to negotiate.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

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According to Dr Eve, the act of cuckolding results in both anguish and arousal for the primary male partner (cuckold).

It can be crushing for men to feel that guilty arousal. They cant help it. That's what a fetish is.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

She advises that exploring sexual fetishes can result in increased intimacy, trust and freedom between partners.

Visit Dr Eve's website for more advice and tips.

Take a listen to her explore the guidelines and dangers of both:

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