Enjoying secret chats online? It may be time to talk polyamory with your partner

Cyber infidelity is more common than people would like to admit.

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve says honest consensual non-monogamy is much better than having an online affair behind a partner's back.

Read: Is cyber infidelity cheating?

Dr Eve explains that cyber infidelity (having secret chats online) may be a sign that it is time to honestly discuss polyamory with your partner.

She says that cyber infidelity has painful consequences and can be avoided if there is openness in your relationship.

Dr Eve advises that polyamory is about more than sex and the physical - it is about opening up relationships in a transparent way.

Opening up relationships is what polyamory is about. The translation is loving more than one person at the same time.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Also read: Three isn't always a crowd: Understanding consensual non-monogamy with Dr Eve

Perhaps because so many people are online and enjoying connections, it's a way of [indirectly] saying I do want to open my current relationship.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Dr Eve advises that couples begin to talk openly, without secrecy, about their desires and sexuality.

I want people to have a view of alternative options, rather than the incredible trauma of cheating.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Callers phoned in to share their experiences of cyber infidelity and where the cheating lines are blurred.

Visit Dr Eve's website to learn more.

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