Talking Sex: Radical honesty may make or break a relationship

Clinical sexologist, Dr Eve says she gets worried when couples in romantic relationships talk about the weather - which to her signals boredom or that they are not practicing what she calls 'radical honesty'.

So is honesty is always the best policy? This is the question Dr Eve asks on this Friday's Talking Sex

Dr Eve explains that radical honesty centers on the notion that an individual should be honest with other people in their lives, at all times, without limitation or restriction. She adds that it is also a concept co-opted by the polyamorous community.

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The only way you can really survive a polyamorous or open relationship is if radical honesty is practised.

Dr. Eve, Clinical sexologist

People often find themselves in conflicting and ambiguous situations where even though we think disclosure is absolutely compulsory in a relationship, it is actually forbidden in relationships, adds Dr. Eve.

Disclosure is at one time compulsory because in a romantic model we are told in order to have intimacy you have to disclose everything to the partner you are with. And at the same time partners are saying to each other don't tell me anything I don't want to hear.

Dr. Eve, Clinical sexologist

Dr. Eve says there is a complicitness that exists between couples which makes honest relationships difficult.

You know you have a STI- do you disclose this to a new partner and risk losing this person? asks Dr. Eve

I'm very transparent and honest in all my relationships but find that in some stages my honesty is used as a weapon in an argument.

Kenny, caller

Listen to the full conversation below:


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