Why low sexual desire is not 'abnormal'

It can be very harmful on relationships to treat low sex drive as psychologically abnormal, explains clinical sexologist Dr Eve.

Dr Eve says that pathologising sexual desire can cause a great deal of distress.

She advises that low sexual desire often leads to undue pressure or coercion from intimate partners.

Read: Why 1 in 10 women endure painful sex (and keep it a secret)

Dr Eve maintains that intimacy can happen without physical touch.

She explains that non-sexual relationships can be fulfilling and should not be stigmatised.

Sometimes we kind of want to tickle each other's genitals and other times we just don't want to.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

There are many other ways to get the feelings of intimacy and connection besides having sexual activity as we traditionally know it.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Dr Eve also acknowledges that low sexual desire and asexuality (as a sexual orientation) are two different things.

Also read: Do you hide your kinks and fantasies? Exploring sexuality authenticity disorder

She has problematised the definition of sexual interest or arousal disorder by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM5).

According to the DSM5, sexual interest or arousal disorder is characterised by a persistent or current absence of sexual/erotic thoughts or fantasies or desire for sexual activity for at least six months.

It is seldom is a medical issue.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

33 - 43% of women who are premenopausal and 32% of men complain of having low desire.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Visit Dr Eve's blog to learn more advice and tips.

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