Why divorce counselling is key to a healthy marriage split

Thinking of initiating divorce?

Clinical psychologist Khosi Jiyane suggests that spouses independently consult with a professional to help navigate through the process.

Read: Dealing with emotions vital part of divorce mediation, says attorney

Studies suggest that divorce filings begin to spike in the new year, with January dubbed as 'divorce month'.

Jiyane says many couples start the year coming to terms with issues in their marriage.

She explains that divorce counselling helps individuals find clarity on the matters they are battling with.

Also read: Communication and co-parenting tips for divorced parents

Jiyane insists that staying in a toxic marriage is never in the best interest of children, and only causes deeper damage.

Divorce is a decision taken or initiated by one party over another. That has it's own consequences.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

The conversation helps you see through and think through the process. To help you echo to yourself and stand in the pain and fear of the dilemma.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

Find someone who has the professional capacity, neutrality and expertise to help you unpack this for yourself.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

The most important thing is to be clear about yourself and your situation.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

The only thing worse than staying in a dysfunctional marriage is staying in it one day longer.

Khosi Jiyane, Clinical psychologist

Take a listen to her expert advice and listeners share their personal experiences:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : Why divorce counselling is key to a healthy marriage split


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