Intimate betrayal goes much further than infidelity, explains clinical sexologist and couples therapist Dr Eve.
The feeling of intimate betrayal is a pain unlike any other, cutting at the core of a relationship and the ability to trust and love.
Lovers can feel hurt, disappointment, pain, anger and frustration towards their partner for a number of reasons, including being lied to, abused or stolen from.
Dr Eve says some intimate betrayals include:
- a partner who withholds sexual activity
- a partner who constantly criticises you
- a partner who uses your joint finances secretively
- a partner who uses your joint finances unilaterally
- a partner who withholds affection from you
- a partner who withholds personal relevant past history from you
- a partner who withholds time from you
- a partner who does not keep commitments
- a partner who withholds emotional closeness from you
- a partner who is always angry with you
Dr Eve says honesty, communication and commitment are key countering intimate betrayal.
Several listeners called in to share their touching personal experiences.
I experience a partner withholding sexual activity for about a yer of a three year relationship. It did tremendous damage to the relationship, myself esteem and how I was on a daily basis. I felt that it was a massive betrayal.— Mark, caller
I've ended my marriage of 12 years. My breaking point came when I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I was admitted into hospital. My partner could not bring himself to acknowledge the betrayal of infidelity, financial and emotional abuse.— Mary, caller
I can't even have a normal conversation with my wife of 13 years. When I try to speak to her about something that hurt me in the relationship, I get told to shut up. I feel broken, never mind hurt.— Barry, caller
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This article first appeared on CapeTalk : 10 types of intimate betrayal (and moving relationship stories on broken trust)