What's the real deal with 'blessers'?

Have you ever wondered how some people just seem to have it all?

Designer clothes, luxury cars, exotic holidays and houses in the best area codes?

Well the next time you're enviously looking at the lives of the rich and fabulous on social media, you may want to consider whether you're actually looking at reality.

In her latest novel, The Blessed Girl, author Angela Makholwa explores the phenomenon of blessor and blessee relationships.

Not familiar with the term? Mahkolwa explained to Sara-Jayne King.

A blessee is a young woman who relies on an older, sometimes, married man to take care of her material needs. It's usually a transactional relationship. The man gets to enjoy the favours of a young woman.

Angela Makhola, author, The Blessed Girl

The book follows the story of twenty-something Bontle Tau as she juggles three blessors, all the while, trying to make it in business and impress her followers on social media.

It became a lifestyle option for certain young women because they just saw it as an easy way out, because these men are available and willing to spoil them.

Angela Makhola, author, The Blessed Girl

But despite her seemingly charmed life, Bontle holds a dark secret, and soon it becomes clear that her past looks set to derail her.

Find out more by listening to the full interview with Angela Makholwa here:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : What's the real deal with 'blessers'?


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