Do you feel shameful when it comes to sex and sexual fantasies?
Perhaps you feel that you are too sexual, or not sexual enough? Maybe you are having difficulty coming to terms with your sexuality?
If so, you're not alone.
Many of us have feelings of shame or general discomfort around sex, and there are apparently a number of reasons why.
Sexuality is what we feel most shame about. It's what happens in and out of the bedroom that can really lead to sexual shame.— Dr Marelize Swart, Sexologist
Sexologist Dr Marelize Swart says it's also very common for survivors of sexual abuse and rape to feel shame around sex.
The victim often feels guilty, they feel maybe they could have done something to prevent it...it's often hard because their body responds - which is a natural response - and they often feel bad about that. But they are never, ever to be blamed.— Dr Marelize Swart, Sexologist
The good news is that sexual shame can be overcome.
Dr Swart says it's about re-framing the way we feel about sex, and ourselves.
For many people, she says, the shame around sex comes from religion.
I often say things like, God or a higher form ,created sexual energy.
Dr Swart also urges people to communicate with their partners and also to take advantage of the support groups and organisations out there.
Listen to the full interview with Dr Swart here:
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