Family Matters: 'Forgiveness is not a decision; forgiveness is an intention'

What is true forgiveness and why are people struggling with forgiveness?

Clinical psychologist Hayden Knibbs says the starting point of forgiveness is to acknowledge the emotional impact of the incident and work through it.

Speaking to Eusebius McKaiser on Family Matters, Knibbs says most people put themselves in the shoes of the person apologising without processing the situation first.

Forgiveness is not a decision; forgiveness is an intention.

Hayden Knibbs, Clinical Psychologist

So it is rather to look at a process where you would reach a point of forgiveness.

Hayden Knibbs, Clinical Psychologist

We very often cover something with the decision to forgive...okay I'm done, I choose to forgive but it doesn't really work like that. We run the risk of paradoxically run the risk of intensifying the hurt because we almost avoided it.

Hayden Knibbs, Clinical Psychologist

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