Feel like you're losing it? How to tell if you're a victim of gaslighting

Gaslighting is a very dangerous form of mental and emotional abuse.

It is far more sinister in nature than manipulation and has malicious foundations, says clinical psychologist Stephanie Bové.

Gaslighting is a type of psychological abuse that aims to make a victim question their sanity and experience of reality.

It is designed to plant seeds of self-doubt and alter an individual's perceptions. Gaslighting is often based on the need for power and control.

The perpetrator typically displays the narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies of an abuser, Bové explains.

She adds that victims of gaslighting are often insecure and dependent on the deceiver.

According Bové, gaslighting can leave victims incessantly confused and cause them to question their judgement and logic.

Gaslighting is a type of emotional and psychological abuse wherein an 'abuser' will repeatedly manipulate a victim, usually a partner, employee or family member.

Stephanie Bové, clinical psychologist at Saheti School

The 'abuser' essentially leaves them feeling completely uncertain about their capabilities, perceptions, memories and even their sanity - setting the person into complete psychological disequilibrium.

Stephanie Bové, clinical psychologist at Saheti School

In gaslighting there is a deliberate need to shift the victim off balance. There's an extreme change of personality that comes with that, which can be destructive.

Stephanie Bové, clinical psychologist at Saheti School

With gaslighting, there is deliberate harm intended to the individual's character or personality. It can take on delusional forms, which is why it's so dangerous.

Stephanie Bové, clinical psychologist at Saheti School

She discusses examples of gaslighting, shares her advice and answers pertinent questions.

Listen to the insightful discussion during the Family Matters feature:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : Feel like you're losing it? How to tell if you're a victim of gaslighting


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