Do you know your partner's deepest sexual desire? Have you disclosed your own?
While honesty about sexual fantasies can create greater intimacy, clinical sexologist Dr Eve says disclosing may have its downsides.
Dr Eve explains that men and women's fantasies are reflecting a move towards "open relationships" and away from mono-heteronormative experiences.
People are pushing the envelope. People are bored with the same kind of predictable routine of what society has told us is 'normal' sexual behaviour.— Dr Eve, clinical sexologist
US researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller conducted a comprehensive study in America on sexual fantasies.
The findings have been published in his book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life .
The top fantasies revealed by the study are:
- group sex
- control/rough sex
- novelty, adventure and variety
- taboo and forbidden sex
- passion and romance
- erotic flexibility
Dr Eve explains that there is often shame and guilt around sexual fetishes.
She describes what each of the listed fantasies entail and engaged with listeners who shared their personal desires.
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This article first appeared on CapeTalk : Tell me what you want: Study reveals most common sexual fantasies