Do nice people really finish last?
Clinical psychologist, Jeanie Cave, says 'nice people' tend to have a particular communication style, which includes:
- high levels of empathy
- high levels of unconditional positive regard
Although 'nice people' are liked, that does not automatically translate into respect or influence, she explains.
Cave discusses whether a 'nice' communication style is a barrier to your success and listeners share their personal experiences.
Someone who is nice and liked, but not respected, typically has a hard time setting effective boundaries.— Jeanie Cave, clinical psychologist
Being sincere, authentic.. being able to read somebody else's frame of reference and being accommodating - all of those things tend to be what we define as a nice person.— Jeanie Cave, clinical psychologist
There's a difference between being nice and being kind. There's also a difference between a trait and a communication style.— Jeanie Cave, clinical psychologist
Not all people who are successful in business are sociopaths, and not all sociopaths are successful in business.— Jeanie Cave, clinical psychologist
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This article first appeared on CapeTalk : [LISTEN] Is your 'niceness' sabotaging your success?