'When celebs are involved in domestic violence to say it's so sad is irritating'
The National Prosecuting Authority (NPA) may still go ahead and prosecute Power FM owner Gavin Mkhari and wife Ipeleng on assault charges they opened against each other should its investigation find evidence to pursue the case.
Radio Show Host Eusebius McKaiser weighs in on these assault charges and says even though the charges have been provisionally withdrawn, he suspects that the provisional withdrawal will become a permanent withdrawal on the NPA's part.
Because when it comes to domestic violence or alleged domestic violence cases when it's 'he said, she said' and he and she do not want to operate with an investigating officer, then obviously the quality of the docket will be weak.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
And you won't have a case that has the prospects to be won in court so it's likely that nothing will come out of it.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
But when a prominent person in society or prominent people are involved in cases like the one Mkhari's names have been involved in over the last 24 hours, it raises some very important general questions about society that we need to talk about.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
He adds that there are a couple of issues that he wants to frame.
Firstly, if one of your faves gets implicated in violence, choosing silence is not praiseworthy. And if you really want to be a moral coward, rather choose silence that saying things like 'It's so sad'.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
Oh, its such a tragedy, oh I just wish Given and Ipeleng peace, world peace for them, I will keep you in my thoughts. Because what these things do is, firstly silence is complicit behaviour when you are dealing with structural violence.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
So silence isn't acceptable. But silence I think is marginally less annoying than the 'oh its so sad' brigade.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
He says what the latter responses do is frame it as a refusal to recognise the urgency of the people involved - and invariably the man involved - in these kinds of cases.
So you think you are being incredibly engaged as a moral citizen by saying oh its so sad, I just wish them peace.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
No, you are not, women don't want you to say that what they have experienced is sad and tragic, they want to live in a country in which they are not beaten up!Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
If you are not going to be brave enough to say what we need to say to deal with the scourge of violence, then either shut up or interrogate what you want to tweet and draft the tweet before you actually let it out on the Twitterverse.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
Because saying things like oh it is so sad, it's like saying things like oh it's a natural disaster, Its like a landslide, oh my goodness I wish this earthquake didn't happen.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
Violence is not a natural disaster, it is a manmade disaster, the operative part of it been 'manmade'. And it is us men who are waging a war against women and girls in this country.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
He says when you have bystanders saying its so sad, it really irritates the living daylights out of him. As a false moral equivalence between men and women in society.
When the structural reality is that us men have a disproportionate amount of the power. And secondly, it makes them feel like you are morally engaged as a citizen when actually you are copping out because you are refusing to take a view.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
He says the next thing about how this thing has played out in the last 24 hours, its the idea of the strong woman.
He adds that the face of victimhood in this country is a poor black woman. A woman living under the conditions of extreme poverty typically in a shack.
And that if you live in a suburb, behind a wall, that's very quiet, obviously you cant be the victim of domestic violence.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
Because you must necessarily have enormous power if you are a woman with a degree, if you are a woman on a board of a company then you must have so much power.Eusebius McKaiser, Show Host.
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