'Neither of us can sleep' - how secrecy impacts your relationships and health

Secrecy has the potential to ruin relationships and an individual's wellbeing.

Relationship coach Stephanie Dawson-Cosser explains that keeping secrets can have unhealthy consequences.

Read: Do you tell the kids about the affair? Dr Eve talks family secrets

She says that inconsistency and non-disclosure can cause a disease and a shift in relationship dynamics.

Secrets have an impact on trust between people.

They can cause individual health complications such as high blood pressure, stress, severe headaches, anxiety, anxiety attacks and depressive episodes.

Also read: How lying and deception can impact relationships

We are hardwired, from the moment of conception, to want to know where we have come from.

Stephanie Dawson-Cosser, family and parenting coach

Secrets gnaw away at us.

Stephanie Dawson-Cosser, family and parenting coach

Keeping secrets is unhealthy from the beginning.

Stephanie Dawson-Cosser, family and parenting coach

A number of listeners phoned in to share their experiences with secrecy, infidelity and trust in relationships.

My secret is... I cheated on my wife [after she gave birth last year] and the lady gave birth three days ago, so I've got another son. It's been eating me inside for quite some time now and I don't know what to do... A lot is at stake.

Talent, caller

My secret is about my sexuality. I've been living a lie for a long time... I haven't told them the truth and it's killing me so much. I'm staying with my partner but my family think he's my friend.

Sipho, caller

Listen to the discussion on The Eusebius McKaiser Show:


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