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Do you know your partner intimately enough? Here's how to tell

How well do you know your partner?

The basis of any relationship is not sexual technique or style. It's friendship, says clinical sexologist and relationship guru, Dr Eve.

Read: Tell me what you want: Study reveals most common sexual fantasies

Dr Eve says it's important for couples to honestly and frequently check in on each other about their likes, dislikes, needs, desires, beliefs, fears and life dreams.

The only way you know someone is by talking to them.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

If you don't start off with a deep knowledge of each other Dr Eve says, it's easy for your relationship to fall apart.

Alo read: Read more: Sex driving a wedge in your relationship? Uncovering sexual desire discrepancy

If you can't answer most of the following questions, you may have a lot of work to do on your relationship this year:

  • Name my two closest friends.
  • What was I wearing when we first met?
  • Name one of my hobbies.
  • What stresses am I facing right now?
  • Describe in detail what I did today or yesterday.
  • What is my fondest unrealised dream?
  • What is one of my greatest fears or disaster scenarios?
  • What is my favourite way to spend an evening?
  • What is one of my favourite ways to be soothed?
  • What is my favourite getaway place?
  • What are some of the important events coming up in my life? How do I feel about them?
  • What are some of my favourite ways to work out?
  • Name one of my major rivals or “enemies.”
  • What would I consider my ideal job?
  • What medical problems do I worry about?
  • What was my most embarrassing moment?
  • Name one of my favourite novels/movies.
  • What is my favourite restaurant?

Visit Dr Eve's website to learn more about how to deepen your relationship intimacy.

Also read: 10 of the steamiest articles about sex that had our readers hooked in 2018

Listen to her describe an important relationship exercise and share more expert advice:


This article first appeared on CapeTalk : Do you know your partner intimately enough? Here's how to tell


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