Relationship commitment looks different for everyone, Dr Eve explains

Commitment looks different for everyone but without it, relationships suffer.

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve says commitment is not about a joined-at-the-hip relationship.

It’s a personal pledge one takes to another, without losing themselves in the process, she explains.

Commitment is a sense of investment. Investment of time and resources into somebody, and one person in specific.

Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist

There can be no sense of connection with someone unless there is that force of commitment. It is key.

Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist

Read: Do you know your partner intimately enough? Here's how to tell

Dr Eve says partners need to discuss what signs of commitment they are looking for in order to create clarity and avoid ambiguity.

This could be commitment shown through time, finances, attention, monogamy, and much more.

Also read: Quit discriminating against single people - it's harmful, says Dr Eve

It's crucial for partners to discuss their expectations and whether a relationship is independent, co-dependent or interdependent in nature.

She adds that it's important to build trust, manage insecurities and relationship anxieties in modern-day relationship structures.

Commitment implies reciprocity, and a lack of which can be hurtful, Dr Eve says.

Read more: Are you getting enough sex? Here's the truth about how often other couples do it

Practice kindness and respect. Respect the difference that exists between us, respect that the way we show commitment is different.

Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist

If there isn't any reciprocation, there's no commitment. And without commitment, there can't be any kind of trust.

Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist

If you're going to be joined at the hip, it doesn't guard you or mean that you will not be unfaithful.

Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist

Visit Dr Eve's website to learn more.

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