Psychologist's tips on dealing with rejection

Rejection is an almost unavoidable aspect of being human. We all experience it, and yet, those times when we do, are often the times we feel the most alone, outcast, and unwanted.

Sometimes rejection is also based on elements and events from our past, like our attachment history. As a result, how we react to rejection is often equally or even more significant than the rejection itself.

Clinical psychologist, Khosi Jiyane says rejection starts from the very people that bring us to this world to the people we choose to be part of our lives.

The essence of us as humans is that we are social relational beings and therefore the words that describe who we are in essence are: connection, belonging, empathy, sympathy and compassion. These words speak to our emotional and psychological safety.

Khosi Jiyane - Clinical psychologist

At the heart of relationships, when someone says 'I love you', you then feel safe, and you start to think that the world is a safe place, you know your place and you know where you belong. Therefore, when we experience rejection, it is then a severing of that cord of love that we have experienced before.

Khosi Jiyane - Clinical psychologist

Khosi said, when rejection happens it changes our sense of how we see the world in which we lived, because we all have our internal script of how life is.

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