How do you inculcate in teens a way to resist peer pressure, asks Eusebius

Following the murder of 27-year-old Thoriso Themane, allegedly by a group of teenagers in Polokwane, the issue of peer pressure has been thrown into the spotlight.

A video posted on social media by one of the perpetrators insinuated that the alleged incident was because of peer pressure from some member of the gang.

Eusebius and CapeTalk/702 listeners weighed in on the issue of peer pressure and how can parents teach their children to be responsible individuals who are not easily influenced negatively by others.

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But how do you inculcate in teenagers, in particular, a sense of strong individuality so that the values and principles that are imbued in them, as you raise them, make them more likely to resist peer pressure?

Eusebius McKaiser, Presenter - 702/CapeTalk

The problem I face with peer pressure is that I often feel like I am not accepted for who I am. I feel like that's what succumbs people to peer pressure - because they go through body changing and adapting in order to be accepted.

Jacob, caller

14-year-old Jacob also provided some insights in how he deals with peer pressure.

I look at what I really value and certain things that I value I won't change but smaller things I do change. Sometimes you have to make choices between what you value and what you want...

Jacob, Caller

My son had a campout at his mates house and during the night they decided to go to a house across the road to certain things to the neighbours house like putting rocks on the gate to derail it and my son said no I am not doing it. He could've succumbed to peer pressure but he just felt his values are not to go around messing with other people's properties.

Dave, Caller

The problem that we have in our society right now is that we have a society that believes in not having roles and responsibilities. If you ask women to grow and groom people according to the female values you said to be patriarchal, what we are actually missing is the femininity.

Luthendo, Caller

We are actually missing that balance of femininity where our women teach children how to be spiritual, teach them to be human again and have that empathy.

Luthendo, Caller

Eusebius provided a different view to the opinion put forward by caller Luthendo.

There is no such thing as the female body or form being prone to empathy than men. We need to disabuse ourselves of the idea that if you are born with a penis you already have a deficit in your potential capacity to be deeply empathetic

Eusebius McKaiser, Presenter - 702/CapeTalk

The ability to empathise with people who are different who are different from ourselves is a human capacity and these notions of maleness and femaleness and all these other gendered languages that we use those are social and political constructions.

Eusebius McKaiser, Presenter - 702/CapeTalk

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