Change in husband's attitude leaves caller 'sad and broken'

Intimate relationships aren't always rosy, and in reality can be emotionally painful and traumatic.

You simply cannot escape relationship trauma, which can apply to friends, family or lovers, says clinical sexologist and relationship expert Dr Eve.

Though it's often expected for relationships to be safe, they can sometimes leave you feeling lonely, scared, anxious, angry and sad.

Relationships are filled with high moods of joy and low moods of dis-ease, she explains.

Dr Eve says your relationship may be filled with too much trauma if it leaves you feeling the following ways:

  • powerless
  • disconnected from myself
  • disconnected from my partner
  • disconnected from others in my world
  • unmanageable stress around my partner
  • unable to control my emotions
  • unable to control my behaviour
  • emotionally violated
  • little self value
  • emotionally unsafe
  • despairing
  • physically ill

Some callers phoned in to share their personal stories of damaging and traumatic relationships.

My husband's attitude has changed lately; he is acting weird. I've been trying to find out what is going on with him and this lady at work... Lately I've been emotionally down. I'm sad and I'm broken.

Joy, caller

I was married, facing emotional and financial abuse in my relationship as the only one working for eight consecutive years. I developed headaches, neck and back tension and couldn't sleep.

Samu, caller

I was married for 33 years. Looking back, I realise how damaging and degrading it was. It was painful to even breathe normally. I went through so many emotions... The hurt never goes away.

Yasmeen, caller

Visit Dr Eve's blog for expert advice on how to manage relationship stress.

Listen to the full discussion with Dr Eve on The Eusebius McKaiser Show:


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