The Department of Basic Education (DBE) is considering an overhaul of Life Orientation and wants to include a realistic approach to sex education.
To discuss this stance by the department, 702' Bongani Bingwa speaks to clinical sexologist Dr Eve.
I applaud the department for being so progressive and saying we have to shake this thing up. What they did is look at the children that are coming at the end of school, and questioned what the most significant problems we are facing are. What they found was violence, as well as sexuality, were the problems.— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
So how do we humanise our children, when we talk about sex education? It is not about what is masturbation or what is sex? It is about how do you humanise sex education?— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
She says a values-based curriculum would help children growing up expand the same values into their sexual lives.
This means respect for each other, body image. That we need to appreciate and have self-pride in each other and that we practice consent.— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
So for example, your 10-year-old is going to learn consent. Also, this is my body, and these are parts of my body that feel nice when I touch them, and it happens to have a word which is masturbation, and this is something I enjoy doing, and it is something that you should enjoy doing.— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
Dr Eve says masturbation is a healthy development style that every child goes through without having to be taught to do.
What we do need to do is acknowledge that this is something that happens and it feels fantastic and it is one that people engage in.— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
She says schools need to have meaningful conversations about sex which include topics such as pornography and masturbation.
Research shows that it is something that needs to be included in the school curriculum because they don't understand it and they think that is normal sexual behaviour. We as parents and the department, have to talk to them about pornography being an act of entertainment and not what sex is about.— Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist and couples sex therapist
Listen below to the full interview: