Emotional caller opens up about ongoing racist remarks in interracial marriage

An emotional listener Leah on the 702 open line pours her heart out about racism in her interracial relationship.

She shares how her husband's friends make racists comments and her husband doesn't call them out.

Leah says she is staying in the relationship because of their children.

Some of the comments they make (his friends) within my vicinity, I find to be very racist. At some point, I felt my partner didn't do much to defend me or shut it down. The one that shook me the most, we were walking in a hotel, and she saw a couple of African people in a swimming pool, and she says in Greek she would never see herself in the same swimming pool as black people, my husband asked her why and she said it's the colour, it seems dirty.

Leah, Caller

She shares some of the other instances where racial comments were made.

Yesterday my husband commented on this other couple's daughter who had a pacifier and he said 'Oh wow, ours stopped when she was one-and-a-half and the husband responded by saying mine has a white mother not black. Is that not racist? Am I crazy? I am frustrated.

Leah, Caller

I am at a point where I am willing to walk away but we have two kids now. I don't want to strip them away from their father.

Leah, Caller

Leah says she has addressed her feelings with her husband.

I can see it upsets him but his response would be you should be more mature about it. Don't give them the response they are looking for.

Leah, Caller

He grew up like that. His mother is anti-black.

Leah, Caller

It has affected me a lot to a point where I feel empty. I am in that relationship because of my children.

Leah, Caller

He would use the K-word, the excuse is that he uses it for black and white to him it doesn't matter. He says he uses it to someone who is dirty and someone who irritates him at the time.

Leah, Caller

Eusebius questioned Leah about why she is still with this man.

What are you doing with a white man who uses the K-word?

Eusebius McKasier, Show host

702 listeners share advice on how Leah can handle the matter going forward.

Leah has to speak up and stop smiling and make everyone around her happy. The husband needs to come to the party and support her.

Celeste, Caller

There were times where I could not go out with my partner in public because of the stares. I call out people on the spot, including my inlaws. You (Leah) need to fight for yourself and don't expose your children to such people.

Mpumi, Caller

It is not good for the kids. Her kids will do better without a father who uses the K-word.

Lindy, Caller

It sounds like she is depleted emotionally. If she feels depleted. My comment is she has to rise and find herself and self-love because she needs to be there for her kids.

Martha, Caller

Listen to the full open line below...


Recommended

by NEWSROOM AI
Read More
[LISTEN] Discussing the psychology of happiness

[LISTEN] Discussing the psychology of happiness

Clinical psychologist Hayden Knibbs we almost open the doors to joy if there are currently are things that create happiness.

[LISTEN] Ramaphosa vs Mkhwebane: the battle continues

[LISTEN] Ramaphosa vs Mkhwebane: the battle continues

The Public Protector last week found that the President deliberately misled Parliament about a donation to his election campaign.

Tips on how to recover from infidelity

Tips on how to recover from infidelity

Dr Eve says if what you are doing will hurt your partner then that is infidelity.

[VIDEO] DA's Van Damme accuses family of racism, V&A Waterfront apologises

[VIDEO] DA's Van Damme accuses family of racism, V&A Waterfront apologises

The Democratic Alliance MP claims she was subjected to a racist tirade at Cape Town's V&A Waterfront and wants action taken.

[WATCH]  "Racism is not a crime," says Vicki Momberg during TV interview

[WATCH] "Racism is not a crime," says Vicki Momberg during TV interview

#VickiMomberg is trending after an interview on Newzroom Afrika with JJ Tabane on Wednesday evening.

Where are all the black teachers?

Where are all the black teachers?

A Sunday Times survey has revealed a distinct lack of diversity in staff rooms in South Africa.

Popular articles
47% probability of the rand crashing in next 12 months - Rand Merchant Bank

47% probability of the rand crashing in next 12 months - Rand Merchant Bank

The writing is probably on the wall for the resurgent rand. Bruce Whitfield interviews John Cairns, a Strategist at RMB.

'Old Mutual claimed they were the cheapest. They were the most expensive!'

'Old Mutual claimed they were the cheapest. They were the most expensive!'

Personal Finance's retired founding editor Bruce Cameron on his attitude toward money (hopes and fears, successes and failures...)

'Public Protector Busisiwe Mkhwebane made lots of mistakes and simply lied'

'Public Protector Busisiwe Mkhwebane made lots of mistakes and simply lied'

Public Protector Busisiwe Mkhwebane lied and acted in bad faith, the ConCourt ruled. Bruce Whitfield interviews Dr Cathy Powell.

3 hottest shares on the JSE this week (by Cannon Asset Managers)

3 hottest shares on the JSE this week (by Cannon Asset Managers)

Samantha Steyn, a portfolio manager at Cannon Asset Managers, shares her stock picks of the week.

'It's about time too!' DJ Fresh on his new 947 gig  #FreshOn947

'It's about time too!' DJ Fresh on his new 947 gig #FreshOn947

The news that DJ Fresh would be joining 947 was dominating on social media on Monday with the hashtag #Freshon97

Lion King fan pleads with parents not to take their kids to the cinema at night

Lion King fan pleads with parents not to take their kids to the cinema at night

Khabazela shares tweets and Facebook posts that have gone viral.

'A lot of people may have wanted him dead.'  - Who killed Mark Batchelor?

'A lot of people may have wanted him dead.' - Who killed Mark Batchelor?

A Sunday newspaper report has suggested the soccer ace's death may have been linked to a missing stash of cocaine.

You made a huge mistake downloading FaceApp if your privacy is important to you

You made a huge mistake downloading FaceApp if your privacy is important to you

Washington Post technology columnist Geoffrey A. Fowler did a forensic analysis of the Russia-based app. Check it out.

46 women rescued in Joburg sex trafficking raid

46 women rescued in Joburg sex trafficking raid

An expert on human trafficking explains how the syndicate operates and how women are lured into dens.