Emotional caller opens up about ongoing racist remarks in interracial marriage

An emotional listener Leah on the 702 open line pours her heart out about racism in her interracial relationship.

She shares how her husband's friends make racists comments and her husband doesn't call them out.

Leah says she is staying in the relationship because of their children.

Some of the comments they make (his friends) within my vicinity, I find to be very racist. At some point, I felt my partner didn't do much to defend me or shut it down. The one that shook me the most, we were walking in a hotel, and she saw a couple of African people in a swimming pool, and she says in Greek she would never see herself in the same swimming pool as black people, my husband asked her why and she said it's the colour, it seems dirty.

Leah, Caller

She shares some of the other instances where racial comments were made.

Yesterday my husband commented on this other couple's daughter who had a pacifier and he said 'Oh wow, ours stopped when she was one-and-a-half and the husband responded by saying mine has a white mother not black. Is that not racist? Am I crazy? I am frustrated.

Leah, Caller

I am at a point where I am willing to walk away but we have two kids now. I don't want to strip them away from their father.

Leah, Caller

Leah says she has addressed her feelings with her husband.

I can see it upsets him but his response would be you should be more mature about it. Don't give them the response they are looking for.

Leah, Caller

He grew up like that. His mother is anti-black.

Leah, Caller

It has affected me a lot to a point where I feel empty. I am in that relationship because of my children.

Leah, Caller

He would use the K-word, the excuse is that he uses it for black and white to him it doesn't matter. He says he uses it to someone who is dirty and someone who irritates him at the time.

Leah, Caller

Eusebius questioned Leah about why she is still with this man.

What are you doing with a white man who uses the K-word?

Eusebius McKasier, Show host

702 listeners share advice on how Leah can handle the matter going forward.

Leah has to speak up and stop smiling and make everyone around her happy. The husband needs to come to the party and support her.

Celeste, Caller

There were times where I could not go out with my partner in public because of the stares. I call out people on the spot, including my inlaws. You (Leah) need to fight for yourself and don't expose your children to such people.

Mpumi, Caller

It is not good for the kids. Her kids will do better without a father who uses the K-word.

Lindy, Caller

It sounds like she is depleted emotionally. If she feels depleted. My comment is she has to rise and find herself and self-love because she needs to be there for her kids.

Martha, Caller

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