Parenting expert Nikki Bush chose to start a conversation around the concept of seriti on social media to mark Women's Day.
The Sotho word translates roughly as the shadow that you cast, which Bush explains as the impact you have on other people.
It's not a personal brand, it's much deeper. Think of it as the shape of the energy you leave behind.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
It's the consequence of each and every choice that you make and how you live your life impacting on others.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
She says we should be wary of falling into the trap of automatically responding to young girls by complimenting the way they look.
How often do we approach young girls and say, so what are you reading? What are you thinking about?— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
Are we plumbing the depths of the being or are we looking at the superficial exterior of this girl?— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
Bush says it's about celebrating uniqueness while at the same time "weaving" the fabric of society together with others.
We journey together and we learn from each other.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
Bush emphasizes the importance of initiating meaningful conversations with girls, for example by getting their opinion on how their peers are portrayed in movies or on billboards.
What will you or will you not accept in your life? How are you prepared to be treated?— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
There are still huge gender stereotypes... You have to stay true to what's important to you - staying true to your values and being very selective about who you choose to mentor you.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
While your family and friends are fantastic, they see you in a certain way and they have certain expectations of you and are invested in the outcome.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
We have feminine intuition and we need to trust that, it's a big part of being a woman.— Nikki Bush, Parenting expert
Listen to the conversation here: