How to identify that you have trust issues and how to heal
Trust is an essential ingredient in any relationship.
However, when somebody has had their trust betrayed, whether it be a friend or a partner, it is hard to deal with.
Clinical psychologist Ruth Ancer chats to Africa Melane on the Eusebius McKaiser Show on the importance of trust in relationships.
Ancer says there are people who struggle to trust even before they have been betrayed.
It is important to remember that trust is not something that is static, it is dynamic and changing and it develops over time and can be destroyed in one instance.Ruth Ancer, Clinical psychologist
People who struggle with trusting others have often had very negative experiences in the past, Ancer explains.
She says often looking at someone's early relationships can determine why that person has trust issues.
If were raised with very unsupportive and dismissive caregivers, it is easy to see why trust is an issue. Why would you trust anyone if your own feelings weren't validated as a child?Ruth Ancer, Clinical psychologist
When people lack that foundation, they often expect that others will let them down, she notes.
If the very people who were supposed to love and care for you betrayed you, why wouldn't other people?Ruth Ancer, Clinical psychologist
Ancer in order to rebuild trust, one needs to look at what was the cause of the break in the first place.
What led to the trust being broken, what is the underlying reasons? The person who has broken the trust needs to take responsibility in a sincere way.Ruth Ancer, Clinical psychologist
Listen below to the full conversation:
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