[LISTEN] What to do if you are in lockdown with a cheating partner
Are you in lockdown with a partner who has cheated or is cheating? This could be through cyber infidelity which includes pornography.
How do you manage living with someone who has injured you now or in the past with infidelity/cyber infidelity?
In her blog, clinical sexologist Dr Eve says lock down triggers old injuries so one should not be surprised if historic traumas, like infidelity pop up much to the surprise and chagrin of the perpetrator.
She joined Eusebius McKaiser for an elaborate discussion on the matter and to share some tips on how to get through this time.
One's immediate response to such a trauma is to go into flight/fight and the perpetrator may go into freeze or defensiveness, so first step is always going to be mindful acceptance of 'I am feeling so terrible and I am in lockdown and I don't have a lot of space to be able to express this'....Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist
You first physically have to take care of yourself, you have to make sure that you continue to eat, follow through your normal daily activities, that you are self-grooming.Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist
You want to focus a lot on mindfulness and getting as many meditation apps as you can to try and regulate your emotions.Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist
Find spaces to talk to your partner. You want to create times where this is going to happen, where you are going to be able to rant and rave. This is where technology comes into use. You can use your WhatsApp to be able to converse with each other because there may be children around. Find other communities online who you can talk to.Dr Eve, Clinical sexologist
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