Hearing the news of the passing of either your mom or dad could be traumatising at any age. Adults are often surprised at the overwhelming emotions that follow the death of a parent because adults are mostly expected to have a strong reaction to the loss of a parent.
Dr Schomer says when death strikes we need to take time feel, to sense, to talk and time to construe.
This hurried society has nicely parcelled it in a plastic kind of a bag and said here it is, sort it out.— Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist
According to Dr Schomer death of a parent is the most painful because parents are there to take care of you, to motivate you and cajole you. He says with time the pain gets better but it will not go away for good.
Acknowledged and accept your grief and if possible share with someone you trust.— Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist
Ways to cope with loss of a parent:
Don’t hurry through grief; you are entitled to mourn your parents.
As an adult, don’t be hard on yourself for feeling the pain, grief is normal.
Know that you will always be your parent’s child even when they are gone, honour them even in death.
Keep in mind that grief does not end, grief comes and goes.
- Don’t expect to be ready because your parents are old or ill.
Here are some of the twitter responses to the topic:
We Lost our dad in 2013.Very warm,loving,open and caring,we cherish all the good memories we've had with him.very priceless @RediTlhabi— Nokulunga-Rose (@SkhosanaRose) September 8, 2015
@RediTlhabi the milestones are what make me miss my father the most. Just glad that our last conversation was a positive one.— Lungile 🎀 (@lungileh_) September 8, 2015
@RediTlhabi Grieving happens b4 burial and mourning takes a lifetime: sweet memories of our dearly departed become our wings, soar abv pain!— SydneyG (@MannaTitbits) September 8, 2015
@RediTlhabi in 1987 my dear uncle was slain in cold blood, I have not recovered 28 yrs later. I was 8 @ the time. No one understands. Thanx.— Leon Witbooi (@Leonw79) September 8, 2015
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